I will never understand how someone can intentionally hurt another person. For this conversation, I want to touch on romantic relationships. How do you tell someone you love them, and break them simultaneously?
Breaking someone's heart while expressing love can have a devastating emotional impact. It can cause confusion, betrayal, and immense pain, leaving the person questioning their self-worth and ability to trust others in the future. Love can have profound long-term implications if expressed in a way that hurts someone.
Both individuals involved can be emotionally scarred by it, making it difficult for them to form healthy relationships in the future. People who have been hurt may experience difficulties with self-esteem and trust, while those who caused the pain may suffer from guilt and regret. Or become more bolden to continue the behavior.
In my life, I have had my share of hurt, some self-inflicted by not understanding or assuming something was a certain way. I had to learn to never assume and take things at face value. Believing the actions of a person vs. what they tell me.
Words are cheap when someone can't stand by them. Actions are real! I learned that people will show you who they are if you give them time.
I will never understand why someone would intentionally hurt someone. It's like giving someone a rose and expecting a bouquet of thorns in return. It doesn't make sense, yet it happens. You intentionally hurt someone to what end? Did you think they would never find out the truth? Did you think telling one lie would not lead to you telling more lies? Is it true that you thought they were so entangled in your twisted web that they would not escape? And now you want to say what?
The damage you cause runs deep but know this: when you get stronger, they no longer have the control they once held. So stand tall and heal, don’t let their manipulation pull you back into their darkness. Have you ever been intentionally hurt by someone in a romantic relationship?
Once you've been emotionally hurt, it takes a while to bounce back fully. You learn to proceed with caution. Unfortunately, we may repeat the same steps, and then your heart may become so damaged that you don't ever open up your heart again. Therefore, you don't reach that total satisfaction of feeling loved and/or being in love. Which, in essence, we short-change ourselves. To this end, it may be okay to be in this safe place and limit your output to another until you wake up from the dungeon of brokenness.
All this is time-sensitive; we must pray, believe, and hope we refurbish ourselves in ample time to enjoy love the right way, the way we deserve to love and…