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The Dark Side of Love Bombing:

Have you ever heard of love bombing? Do you know what it means? Have you ever experienced love bombing? Do you know the signs?


The definition according to Wikipedia is: "A form of emotional manipulation in which an abuser attempts to gain trust, affection, or admiration from a victim by showering them with flattery, gifts, attention, or advances. Love bombing is similar to brainwashing in that it exploits the victim's vulnerabilities and makes them dependent on the abuser."


Social Media is a place where love bombing can take place easily. For example, I have experienced scammers trying to love-bomb me. Let me explain. I have received direct messages saying:

  1. Hello beautiful, I feel like I just found my soulmate.

  2. Hello beautiful, I think I am in love with you. Do you mind if we get to know each other?

  3. I would love to be your Sugar Daddy; love and care for you forever, my Queen.

I cleaned up the spelling. Oh, I failed to mention the one about how my face reminded them of a dead friend they were in love with... seriously? I can list more extreme examples.


Love bombing can happen intentionally or unintentionally. I read an article recently that mentioned love bombing can also come from family members and friends. ("What is Love Bombing?" and published on February 1, 2023, Cleveland Clinic|healthessentials.) The article discusses the three phases love bombing tend to occur.


Of course, there can be negative consequences of love bombing. Such behavior can be manipulative and can cause the victim to feel manipulated and manipulated. It can also make it difficult for the victim to build healthy relationships with others. Be aware of red flags.

Unwanted gifts
Showering you with gifts - love bombing

Love bombing is different from a real loving relationship. Love should not be a stressful experience all the time. There should not be abuse or the constraint crossing of boundaries.

A real loving relationship is based on trust and respect. It should be filled with open communication and mutual understanding. Both partners should feel supported and safe.


This experience can cause trauma and triggers, so healing is very critical. Having someone to talk to and rely on can help to process the trauma and create a healthier relationship. Professional help can be invaluable in the healing process. Finally, patience, understanding, and forgiveness are essential for a successful relationship.


Professional help can provide both guidance and support during the healing process while having a support system of family and friends can provide emotional comfort and understanding. Forgiveness is needed for both the trauma and the person who caused the trauma. By understanding the source of the trauma and being patient, the healing process can be more successful.


It is important to be aware of this type of manipulation, as it can be damaging to your relationships and mental health. If you feel like someone is love-bombing you, it is important to take a step back and evaluate the situation. If the person is truly interested in a genuine relationship with you, they will understand and respect your boundaries.

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ngeter
ngeter
Dec 18, 2023

LOVE BOMBING...good grief. The sad part about it is that we have all probably been exposed to this. This makes me feel like I have to wear a helmet & gear to protect my being. I can't do that! I will remain hopeful and be alert to the possibilities of both legitimate pursuers and hustlers. LOVE is out here; there is someone for everybody. Let the LORD place them in our path, and let the LORD give me the sense to recognize his gift.



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