Today while I was doing my meal prep for the week, God spoke to me. He revealed the raw naked truth to me again and this time with peace in my heart, I laughed.
Let me ask this question: When someone betrays your trust how do you handle it? I usually take a step back, take time to think and process the situation, and then decide how to respond. I believe that taking the time to think before responding is important, as it allows me to stay calm and think rationally. This helps me to make decisions that are in my best interest. It makes it extremely difficult to forgive them over and over again.
If you are in a relationship is lying a deal breaker for you? It is so difficult to regain someone's trust once a lie is told. When someone consistently lies, for example, they tell you it's sunny, but it's raining. They lie for no reason. How do you respond? Do you continue to forgive?
I want you to tell me the truth, and let me decide how I will move with the information. If you lie, and I react to what you did, please don't get upset with me. I choose how to respond and move forward. What I will not do is let it destroy me, because I matter.
I can never control another person's actions. Maya Angelou said it best, "When people show you who they are, believe them." So the decision is mine as to the next move. I will forgive, I will not forget. Their actions speak volumes. My last act will be to walk away. I must choose to keep my peace, respect, and dignity. Actions have consequences and I have no control over the outcome. I will be at peace with whatever decision I make.