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Grief - Does it every go away?

Updated: Oct 11, 2023

My journey with Grief


My earliest memory of grief was at the age of 6. Aunt Patty had passed away in her sleep. My brother Jimmy and me would always go to her room to say good morning. One morning, she did not wake up.


Of course, I have memories of family or friends passing away. We all experience grief differently, each with varying levels of pain.

Grief is real
Hello, its me

For example, I called my Mom after a meeting; after she earned her wings. Who was I going to talk to now? So, I called my Dad.


I realize I can still speak to my Mom but just in a different way. I know she is with me; I never stopped feeling her presence. I have learned this grief journey differs; based on the person you grieve.


Grief is not an easy process, and I never deny my process. Have there been times when this grief was overwhelming? Of course, it can be overwhelming; I have learned to heal and recognize the stages of grief. Some comsider talking to a therapist or joining a support group if need it. I agree, it's does not hurt to get professional help.


Now, let's list the stages of grief, they are as follows:

  • Denial

  • Anger

  • Bargaining

  • Depression

  • Acceptance

I can tell you I have experienced 4 out of the five. I am not a professional on this topic, I am only speaking from my own experience. Should you need to talk to a professional, please do so.


Dealing with grief can be a difficult process, but there are some things that may help. It's important to allow yourself to feel your emotions and seek support from loved ones. Self-care activities such as exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough rest can also be helpful. Remember that everyone grieves in their way and at their own pace, so be patient with yourself.


Journaling has been a helpful way to cope with grief during my life's journey. Some other coping activities are: working out, reading, watching one of my favorite movies, praying, meditating, and remembering my loved one(s) during happier times.


The one thing I always do is give myself grace as I grieve. And I never tell anyone how to grieve, it's different for every person.


If you are or know someone grieving, please be thoughtful. Sometimes we just need you to listen.



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Julio Leaty
Julio Leaty
Jul 06, 2023

Very well said and a very difficult topic. Yes. We all deal with grief in a different way. I believe that we all need to cry and let it out. As a male, I was told "men don't cry." I now know that it is a terrible thing to tell any kid. I didn't learn to cry till my grandmother died. I was in my 30s. I don't hold back anymore and I feel it is better for one's health to let it out.

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