Have you ever wondered who your soulmate is or who you are supposed to marry or be in a relationship with? Have you asked the question "Who's for me?"
You might think:
I'm looking for someone to help me reach my goals. I need someone reliable, motivated, and passionate about what they do. I'm looking for someone who will be a true partner and help me succeed.
Then you might say this: I need someone who can provide guidance and support as I take on new challenges. I need someone willing to put in the effort and dedication it takes to succeed. I'm looking for someone who can inspire and motivate me to reach my full potential.
And then you fill all the boxes on your list, you meet this person, you begin the process of getting to know each other. Then the bottom falls out. Why?
What if you don't have a list? What if you just allow things to happen spontaneously? We try to paint people in boxes and then when they fall off we are done, ready to write them off, because they did not check all the boxes. The Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross once said: “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”
Life is not what you see on social media. It gets real, and so the person who is there for you might be the one who is there when darkness sets in. The person who helps you get out of the darkness. The person who touches your soul understands you but will call you out when necessary.
Who is for me? Did you pray for God to reveal to you the truth? Not what you think you hear, rather what he is saying? He will tell you who this person is for you.
We may ask others for advice on who our person is, but remember they are not in a relationship with the person you choose. Follow your heart, but use your head. Ultimately, the decision should be yours alone and made with careful consideration. Don't be afraid to trust, your instincts and make a decision you're comfortable with, knowing that it will be the right one.
For me, I am not an expert, I want to be with a person who's going to be there for me during the highs and lows when it's light and when it's dark, cause that is what this journey called life gives us.